This past week has been a big lesson for me ….
A lesson of trust and assumption.
Some of you may know that I have three businesses (and soon to be a re-structure, but that is another story). On top of that, I am still actively involved with Les Mills and with teaching classes. So, it makes sense that I tend to compartmentalise my life to make it more manageable. I do also attempt to categorise my diary, so that I can allocate the appropriate amount of time to each business … though I am not always successful at keeping to that?!
What is interesting this week, is I realised that the way I think for one part of my life, does not always carry over into another.
The practice of Yoga is about Practice, Reflection and Surrender; surrender by trusting the process.
I thought that I was actively applying that principle to all aspects of my life; but, perhaps not.
I certainly practice the first two as consciously as possible. The third … surrender … leap, and the net will appear.
And that is what I started to do with the people around me. Trusted that they were coming on the ride with me. Believed that they were in for life.
Now, that is a big leap for me. As an introvert, I am very content with my own company. I do not seek external validation, and tend to get on with stuff. I do the work and get things done. More recently, I have begun to build a team around me, and realise that in order to grow my businesses, I do have to trust and let go.
When it is just me, I do the work, I reflect and I trust in the process. With a team, I find I am no longer “doing the work”, apart from my bit. I do reflect on the teams and where the businesses are going. And, I do, with bated breath, let go.
Unfortunately, I had started to assume that team members are as committed as I am. I trusted that they would do the work because we are all working towards a common goal. Whilst this is true in a couple of my businesses; it is not the case with another. So, the lesson for me is I need to be passionate about the process and not be attached to the outcome. I have to practice letting go with grace, rather than reluctance.
I have to reflect on whether I have shared my goals and dreams enough, or perhaps I do not have to, but rather, shine a light on their goals and dreams?
When Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “I have a dream … “, did people hook into his dream, or did he open their eyes and mind to dream their own dream?
What are your thoughts?
Till next time … x