I have just spent a couple of days in Ibiza, at the annual Les Mills European Trainer Summit. In my 16 years of being a Les Mills Trainer, I have probably missed about no more than 2 or 3 of them. I love learning and staying on top of my game, and I find these events so inspiring and uplifting. They are a great opportunity to reflect on what I have achieved during the previous year, to stay updated with the company and the respective programmes, and also, to catch up with friends.
This year’s summit was no different, and whilst I have numerous nuggets I have taken away with me, the one that I would like to share in this post is having an attitude of gratitude, in relation to feedback.
Read any personal development book and we are told that we should spend some time everyday being thankful of what we have; to be grateful. I was taught by my business mentor to start each meeting with her, and even each day, by writing down the things that are new and good. So often we act from a place of scarcity, or fear, that we forget how far we have come and what we actually have.
I will admit that I am a person who naturally looks at the glass and view it as half empty, rather than full. I am ambitious and always striving for more. Unfortunately, that leads to increased stress levels and pressure on myself. Taking time to appreciate how far I have actually come and what I have achieved puts my business and life into perspective, and is just so much better for the soul, and this is something that I have been practising for the past couple of years, and I view it as my yoga practice.
When this was mentioned as the summit was much appreciated, and it also led me to put it into another perspective; that of feedback.
Feedback is common practice within the Les Mills community. As a Trainer, I receive feedback, as well as give feedback. The further up the ladder you go, the more direct and blunt the feedback becomes. You can appreciate that when we are working to a deadline, e.g. filming for a new release DVD, time is short and we need to perform on the day. When giving feedback, we follow a certain system and still, people do get upset. I totally get it, as I do too; even though I know it will help me improve and be better.
However, the receiving of feedback is totally reframed when we accept feedback with an attitude of gratitude. How about appreciating that the feedback given will only help us be better? How about appreciating that the person giving the feedback does not need to do so in the first place? How about appreciating that they have our best interest at heart?
With that mindset, the feedback becomes less personal. As Hilary Clinton said, “Take criticism seriously, but not personally.”
This week, I invite you to adopt an attitude of gratitude. Perhaps take a moment each day to write down what is new and good for you. Or, how about asking someone you respect for feedback and accept what they have to give you with an open heart?
Gratitude really will change the way you look at the world.
Let me know how you get on … x