I am a “boxes” kind of girl …
By that, I mean that I like things to fit in boxes. Not so much stuff (I much prefer organised mess), but people and situations. I have a tendency to look at someone and put them into a box in my head.
Basically, I am judgmental.
I can, almost instantly, decide if I like someone, or not, and that really isn’t necessarily a good, or useful, thing to do. I used to think it was gut instinct, which it most probably is, but I would then proceed to judge them based on that.
Over the years, I have learnt to catch my judgment switch going off, pause and drop any expectations. And yet, the skill is in trusting gut instinct and being completely open. Honestly, this is work in progress for me. When I am open, I seem be oblivious to my gut instinct. When I listen to my gut, I tend to be closed and judgmental.
The other thing about being judgmental is that there are times when I am judging myself; against the “norm”, other people. And that is when I need to give myself a big slap because I do know better?!
So what I need to do is make quiet time, to breathe, to meditate and contemplate because when I do, finding that magical balance point is so much easier.
How about you?
Do you find yourself being judgmental, of others, as well as yourself?
Till next time … x