In a world that thrives on telling you that you are not enough, do you have the strength to embrace self-acceptance?
Self-acceptance is the first step towards self-improvement. In yoga, we recognise that if we cannot accept ourselves first, then we cannot hope to accept others. Similarly, if we cannot love ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to love us?
The practice of yoga has allowed me to grow, to change, to transform. On the mat I learned to love myself, and that overflows off the mat in to my life. So, here are some tips to help you on your way:
- Let go of your need to be perfect. We have so many expectations of ourselves, particularly women. “Perfection is the absolute lowest standard you can have for yourself because it’s impossible to attain,” Tony Robbins. Every blossom is perfect. In fact, it’s their imperfections that make them unique and beautiful in their own right.
- Find yoga that works for you. In fact, I am of the belief that the yoga should always fit the individual, rather than the other way around. So, if that is not your experience, I encourage you to look for a teacher that works for you. The same in life. Why struggle to get a square to fit a round hole?
- Approach your yoga practice as a conversation. So often movement, including yoga, gets wrapped around the axle of competition and achievement. As you may have experienced yourself, that is usually a path to discouragement and burn-out. I encourage you instead to approach yoga, or any movement practice, as a conversation. Ask yourself what do you need in this moment in time, and how can you meet that need?
- Listen. Actively listen to your body and your self. With your own body, after asking yourself a question, show yourself you’re listening by responding to the need you identified, or at least telling yourself why you’re not or finding a different way.
The key, I believe to self-acceptance, is learning to truly listen to that quiet voice in your heart. Instead of living in your head and trying to figure out what your foot was doing in a pose, learn to have a conversation with your body and yourself because that conversation is the root of acceptance.
From there, make self-acceptance part of your actual life and it becomes something lasting and sustainable that can adapt and grow with you over time. It’s here that we move towards creating the lives we want.