It’s Never As Bad As You Think

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Have you ever had one of those days?

Actually, I’ve been having one of those “couple of months” …

And looking at a global scale, the world seems to be having one of those years?!

Back in September, I blogged about reaching out, and today has just highlighted to me how people are willing to help, if only we reach out and ask.

A quick text to a member of our studio for a local garage recommendation meant we’re now getting our car sorted and the guy’s coming along to our studio for a free taster.

A Whatsapp message to our Arbonne upline resulting in a lovely phone call …

And yet, why do we feel as if we have to take on the world on our own?  Reaching out works both ways; for us, life becomes lighter and we realise that it’s never as bad as we think, and for the other person, it’s always heartwarming when you know you’ve helped someone.

This is something that I’m still learning to appreciate. Aside from two cousins in London and a nephew in Paris, the rest of my family are back in the far east, or scattered around the world. Social media keeps us in touch but we’ve been brought up to “get on with it” and “put on a face”.

What I’ve come to believe now is having a “family” of choice, people that you care about, that care for you.  People you can reach out to, who are willing to help.  This is what we are creating at our lovely Yoga Space in Chew Valley, with our My Kind of Yoga Ambassadors, and with our Arbonne team …

Who do you have in your network?

Who do you know you can call on, and yet, stop yourself from doing so because you feel you should be able to do everything?

Perhaps you’re sitting on the fence about being part of one of our teams …

Reach out … you may find it’s never as bad as you think!

 

Acceptance

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I had the pleasure of being a guest on a video podcast filming today.  It was my first guest podcast, let alone a video podcast.  So, I was rather excited to be part of it.

It was great and we chatted about various things from my background from competitive sport to yoga, the benefits of yoga and w also touched on the 40+ female market.

It’s that thing isn’t it, where you’re thinking of buying a Mercedes and you suddenly see Mercedes cars everywhere.  Well, since I’ve been experiencing hormonal changes over the past 18 months, or so, I’ve become more aware of women in their forties and fifties, who are also experiencing changes.  From conversations with them, and having attended a workshop and worked with a nutritionist, this change is just part of being a woman and yet, we tend to not think about it till it hits.

Yet, why is it we tend to feel alone when we realise that it’s happening?

For me, it a big part was the realisation that I had made choices about delaying having children because I loved what I did and was busy working.  I was now faced with the fact that the window of being a mother was closing rather rapidly.  I also realised that the image the fitness industry carries of fit, healthy females was one that was much younger and I am now entering what seems like the next phase of my life.  I am also now more aware of my mortality.

I honestly don’t feel any different with regards to what I do, and want to do with my life; the legacy that I want to leave behind.

Yet, I am faced with this fact.

That time is moving on.

What I am practicing patiently is self-acceptance.

Acceptance that I will only have fur babies.

Acceptance that my body, my skin will change.

Acceptance that time and life moves on.

Acceptance that nothing defines me.

Acceptance that I am who I am and I have my own unique journey.

Acceptance that I am enough.

How do you practice acceptance?

Till next time .. x

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink

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So the last month has been rather interesting.  With our Arbonne business, it was a record month as we qualified for a promotion.  Our team members who went to the national conference came back fired up, and hugely inspired. I did wonder and reflect on how October would fare for us, and one message has stood out loud and clear. “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.”

That message applied to our Arbonne, as well as our Yoga teacher training businesses.  I had a number of instances where we know for sure that having one, or both, certain individual’s lives would change; significantly for the better.  Yet, for some reason or another, the gift is not accepted.  This is the same with just wanting to help family members and friends whom you care about tremendously.  Have you ever seen someone going off the rails and try hard to help?

What drives me is being able to help others; to introduce a shift in people’s lives.  This could be through the classes I teach, the courses I run and through starting a side business that could easily surpass current income streams.  When I started with my business coach, she said, “If you had the cure to someone’s problems, would you keep it a secret?”  I see what I know, and what I have to offer, a gift and by not sharing them, I’m doing someone a disservice.

Yet, we can never truly know what is going in someone’s life and mind at any particular time.

And, whilst it’s challenging for me to accept that, I have to remind myself that it is in fact it is enough to show the horse the way to the water. With some potential clients you can see how much value you can add if you worked with them but it has to be right for them too.

Many things can get in the way: money, timing, too busy, distractions, past stories, belief – just to name a few. You can’t chase the horse.

You might catch a few but it won’t be the same. If it’s right the horse will find its way to the water. If it’s not it won’t. Both outcomes are perfect in their own way.

The path to my water is clear.

What the water tastes like is clear.

The path is only made for a few horses to travel along.

Everything is how it should be.